Showing posts with label Breastfeeding. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Breastfeeding. Show all posts

Monday, June 25, 2012

Breastfeeding Guide For The Whole First Year

I subscribe to several different parenting websites, and typically receive 3-5 emails a day on various parenting and baby topics.  Many of them are pretty helpful, while some of them are just stating the obvious.  And from time to time, the subject and content has me saying "MAN - this would have been so helpful a few months ago"!

This is one of those articles.  This article by Fit Pregnancy addressed several of the questions I had about breastfeeding, which I was able to have answered either by asking some of my friends, or by just experiencing it and working through it myself.

Anyway, I'm copying the content here with [a few additional notes] that were helpful to me.

Nursing changes as your baby grows. Here’s how to adapt.

The first days and weeks of breastfeeding often boil down to sheer survival: getting your baby to latch onto (and stay on!) your breast; functioning on what often feels like mere minutes of sleep; and willing yourself to keep going if you’re having problems. Yet at some point down the road, when you and your baby have made it through the getting-to-know-each-other period, you’re likely to have different questions and concerns. Here’s a look at some of the breastfeeding issues you’re likely to face throughout the first year.

Month 1 I’ve heard that getting a proper latch is essential for successful breastfeeding. Is it really that important?

Yes, it’s that important. If you don’t have a proper latch, your baby may not get enough milk, and you could develop sore and cracked nipples. Following are tips from Corky Harvey, R.N., M.S., I.B.C.L.C., co-owner of The Pump Station stores in Southern California, on how to get it right (click here for step-by-step photos):

- Position your baby so he is lying on his side, his belly flush against yours.

- Prop up the baby with a pillow and hold him up to your breast; don’t lean over toward him.

- Using your free hand, place your thumb and fingers around your areola (the dark area surrounding the nipple).

- Tilt your baby’s head back slightly and gently touch him with your nipple just above his upper lip.

- When his mouth is open wide, scoop your breast into his mouth. Place his lower jaw on first, well behind the nipple.

- Tilt his head forward, placing his upper jaw deeply on the breast. Make sure he takes the entire nipple and at least 1 1∕2 inches of the areola in his mouth.

[If your baby is falling asleep or stops sucking, you can gently stroke behind their ear to trigger the sucking reflex].


Month 2 How can I tell if my baby is getting enough milk?

This is one of the most common questions among breastfeeding moms, because unlike with a bottle, you just can’t tell how much milk your baby is getting. To make sure you’re both on the right track, your pediatrician will monitor his weight closely, especially for the first several weeks. In the meantime, pay attention to his diapers: He should have six to eight wet ones and at least two “seedy,” mustard- colored stools daily by the time he’s 7 days old. Also keep this in mind: “As long as your baby is gaining weight consistently and his diapers show that he is eating enough, you can assume that he’s getting plenty of milk,” says Jeanette Panchula, R.N., P.H.N., I.B.C.L.C., a lactation consultant at the Solano County Department of Public Health and the California Department of Public Health’s Maternal, Child and Adolescent Health division. If you’re still concerned, schedule a weight check with your pediatrician.

Month 3 I’m going back to my full-time job in a few weeks and want to keep breastfeeding. How do I handle pumping?

First off, alert your employer about your plans so that you can work together to find the best place for you to pump. “It will help things go more smoothly if you can figure out where and when you will pump before you actually get back to work,” Panchula says. You should have begun pumping when your baby was 3 weeks or 4 weeks old, both to get him used to taking a bottle and so you’ll have a supply of breast milk stored in the freezer. If you haven’t started, get going! Since you’ll be returning to work full time, you’ll probably want to rent or buy a double electric pump because it expresses both breasts at once and therefore cuts down on pumping time. (For some great models, see “Nursing” in our Buyer's Guide) When you return to work, try to pump as often—and at about the same times—as your baby normally nurses.

[See my post here about the importance of relaxing and visualization].

Month 4 I’d like to have an occasional glass of wine. How long do I need to wait after drinking before nursing my baby?

In general, the alcohol from one drink—8 ounces of beer, 6 ounces of wine or one shot of hard alcohol—tends to be metabolized (and thus absent from your milk) within two to three hours, at which time it’s safe to nurse your baby. But a better guideline is this: As long as you’re feeling any effects from the alcohol, even if you are just a bit tipsy or giddy, don’t put your baby to the breast. Want to be even more sure? Try MilkScreen, a home test for alcohol in breast milk (milkscreen.com).

[I was a lot more conservative in the first 3 months about carefully timing my wine intake around Ben's feedings.  After I got the hang of things, (and after I realized that one glass of wine didn't make me feel any effects of alcohol whatsoever), I would not worry about waiting the 2-3 hours after having a glass with dinner to feed him. 

Additionally, the whole "pump and dump" thing?  I rarely did/do that.  If it is time for you to feed or pump (or if you just need to express milk) and you are feeling the effects of booze, then yes - feed your baby a bottle and pump and dump your milk.  If your baby is down for the night, and you enjoy a few glasses (or a bottle) of wine, and it's not at a time when you would be feeding your baby anyway, there is no need to pump and dump your milk!  It will simply metabolize in the way it normally would, and when it's time to feed again (assuming the alcohol has worn off), you can just go for it.  For the longest time I didn't quite understand this.  I kind of thought that the "tainted milk" would just hang out there for awhile and needed to be dumped, but my understanding of it all is that just is not the case. 

Tangent. Over.]

Month 5 I’ve heard that breastfed babies usually take longer to sleep through the night. Should my son be doing this yet?

First, keep in mind that “sleeping through the night” at this age actually means five or six hours, not eight or nine. Second, every baby is different. Some will start sleeping through at 3 months old; others won’t until much later. “Babies sleep through the night when they’re ready, whether or not they’re breastfed,” Panchula says.

That said, because breast milk is digested so completely and more quickly than formula, breastfed babies do tend to eat—and therefore wake—more frequently than formula-fed babies. (Tip: Don’t look at the clock! Feed the baby whenever he’s hungry, day or night.)

Month 6 My baby seems ready for solids. How and when should I introduce them?

“Breast milk still is the most important part of your baby’s diet at this age, so breastfeed right before you offer cereal or other foods,” says Debi Page Ferrarello, R.N., M.S., I.B.C.L.C., director of family education and lactation at Penn Medicine at the University of Pennsylvania Health System. When you do offer solids, start with rice cereal and gradually add a cooked or mashed fruit or vegetable. (Many pediatricians believe it’s fine to start with a finely puréed fruit or vegetable, or even meat; check with your doc to see what she recommends.) Be sure to wait three to five days before introducing a different food so you can trace the cause of any allergic reaction.

Month 7 Can I take birth-control pills if I’m breastfeeding?

“Yes. But opt for a progestin-only ‘mini-pill,’ since pills containing estrogen can decrease milk supply,” Ferrarello says. Depo-Provera—an injection given every three months— is another progestin-only contraceptive that is safe to use while breastfeeding; wait six weeks after childbirth before beginning use.

Month 8 I keep getting clogged milk ducts. What causes them, and what can I do to treat them?

“One of the risk factors for clogged ducts is a change in a baby’s feeding pattern,” Ferrarello says. “If your baby is nursing less frequently because he’s eating more solids, milk ‘stasis’— when milk sits in the breast—can occur and cause the ducts to clog.” The best way to treat clogged ducts is by nursing or pumping often from the affected breast, applying warm compresses, and getting plenty of fluids and rest. If you have a fever or flulike symptoms, see your doctor; you may have mastitis, an infection that often requires antibiotics.

Month 9 My baby keeps biting me! How can I make him stop?

Take him off the breast as soon as he starts to bite, say, “No biting!” and keep him off the breast until the next feeding. Also be alert: Biting usually happens toward the end of a feeding, so if you can tell that your baby is almost finished nursing, remove him from the breast before he clamps down.

Month 10 My baby often seems uninterested in nursing. Is this normal?

“This is completely normal at this age,” Harvey says. “Babies are curious about their world and really start to explore now.” Your budding toddler may be distracted by every noise he hears, which causes him to pull away from the breast; or he may be crawling, in which case he really wants to explore. While this might be a frustrating time for you, it should pass; it typically doesn’t mean that the baby is ready to wean.

Month 11 My baby is eating more solids. How many times a day should he be nursing?

“A minimum of four times a day is what we expect,” Harvey says. “A baby this age should be getting about 16 to 20 ounces of breast milk daily.” At the end of the first year, half of a baby’s calories should be coming from breast milk.

Month 12 I’m not sure I’m ready to wean. Are there any good reasons to breastfeed for longer than a year?

There are many reasons to continue nursing, but one of the best is your baby’s health: Breast milk continues not only to protect him from many illnesses, but it also will help him recover more quickly if he does get sick. “As long as your baby is drinking breast milk, he’s getting all the immunological benefits nursing provides,” Harvey says. But there’s more. “A nursing mother and her infant have a special bond, and there is no reason any woman should be in a hurry to give it up,” Harvey adds. “As long as she and the baby are happy, there is no reason to wean.”

Tuesday, April 17, 2012

The "Letdown"

* FYI This post is all about breastfeeding. Skip to the next post if all you are interested in are cute Ben photos ;) *

So, breastfeeding.  I never thought that this would become something so important to me, but it absolutely has become something I am 100% dedicated to.  Before having Ben, I had planned to "give it a try" as it seemed to be something that is recommended.  I figured if I could make it for 2 weeks, I could probably continue throughout my maternity leave, and then if it went well when I went back to work I would just keep on going until it was no longer beneficial to Ben. 

I was one of the lucky ones, as Ben and I had zero problems from the get go.  No soreness on my end, no issues with supply - in fact, I am pretty sure that for a few months I had an over-supply.  Milk for dayz.  Ben was packing on the lbs as fast as I was losing them - it was a mutually beneficial situation for the two of us! ;)  I began pumping and storing extra in my freezer for when I would be away from Ben at work, and I assumed that this whole thing was going to be a breeze until I decided I was going to stop.

Due to my work schedule, and the schedule we have gotten Ben on, I only need to pump one time each day while at the office.  I feed Ben before work, he gets a bottle (and I pump) mid-morning, I am home to feed him at lunch time, and then he waits to eat again until I am home from work in the late afternoon.  Once we got the bottle issue resolved, it seemed as if we could continue with our system forever until Ben hit 1 year of age.

But let me tell you how weird our bodies are:  About a month ago, out of the blue, my body decided that it was not going to respond to my breast pump anymore.  Ben would be at home drinking his 5-7 ounces of milk, and I would be at the office....pumping 2 oz if I was lucky.  I went from pumping at least enough milk to cover his bottle intake, to hardly pumping half of what I needed.

I didn't think much of it for a couple weeks.  I figured it was just a weird day, or I had timed my pumping session wrong.  I knew I had enough "reserves" in the freezer that it didn't really matter.  I started to panic when I realized I only had enough for a couple bottles left, and I still was pumping a lot less than needed.

I reached out to my network of experienced bf'ing moms to see what they thought.  A friend of mine offered to let me borrow her pump, to see if I had a pump issue instead of a supply issue.  I called my doctor, I started taking Fenugreek (it's supposed to boost your supply), I stopped drinking as much caffeine as I had been, cut out alcohol, tried eating healthier foods, but for awhile there NOTHING was increasing the amount I pumped.

Finally, someone asked me if I was experiencing the "letdown" while pumping.  After some reflection, I realized that no - I had not been experiencing this while pumping at work for the past several weeks.  I knew that it was occurring with Ben while feeding him, but for some reason it wasn't happening with the pump.  I did a bunch of research and basically learned how much your mental state has to do with the particular hormone release needed to have this occur - which will then make for a successful pumping session.  

It was suggested that I take several deep breaths, watch videos/look at pictures of Ben), bring a blanket that smells like Ben to work, and my personal favorite suggestion, "visualize a waterfall of milk", (LOL!) - basically anything to somehow trigger that happy "I'm feeding my baby" feeling.

Seriously.  How strange is that?  Our bodies are odd.   Yes, there have been some pretty major changes at work lately that have created more work for me, (and perhaps added stress), but nothing that I thought would affect me in THIS way.

Anyway, I'm happy to report that after MUCH concern and stress over this issue, I have somehow managed to relax enough to get my pumping situation under control and successful.

So, once again, it has been a reminder to me just how valuable it is to have the support of others to help navigate through situations such as this!  Often times the answers are out there, and all you have to do is stay focused on finding a resolution and ask for help.

Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Rachel's Bachelorette! (What Happens in Seattle...)

....will be blogged about in great detail!

On Saturday, March 10th, we celebrated Rachel's last night out as a single lady!  This has been a night that I had been anticipating for a lonnnnnng time!  It was both a night I was SO excited for, to celebrate Rachel and have a fun night out, and also a night I was really nervous about, as it was my first night away from Ben (overnight)!  I have to admit, a few months ago I would not have been ready to do it.  BUT - as the weekend grew closer and closer, I found myself not really sad at all and ready to enjoy a night with some girlfriends!

I packed up my stuff, fed Ben, and got him down for his afternoon nap before hitting the road!



We met in our suite at the Grand Hyatt in Seattle.  Our room, on the 29th floor, had a killer view:


We spent a few hours talking, having some drinks and got ready to go out.  Next up was Barrio on Capital Hill, where we had a pre-set menu of options of delicious food to choose from:











We then moved the party to Purr, and finally Neighbours where we danced, people watched, and celebrated Rachel's last night out!  It was SO MUCH FUN, and I laughed SO much that night. 


The bride

A few days before the weekend, I realized it was going to be Daylight Savings Time on Saturday night, (bad planning!) which meant that many of us didn't get to bed until after 4 am (and even later for some)!  I am used to a 9 pm bedtime, but apparently cocktails and lots of entertainment helped me push through ;) 

We ended the event with a delicious room service brunch - much needed after a big night out! 

We are all soooooo excited for you, BFF.  5.5 weeks until the big day!

Mom side note: I had been wondering how I would be able to be away from Ben for a long period of time while he is still nursing.  I actually had a lot of anxiety about it, as I was worried he would not take his bottle and that I would somehow mess up my supply by not being with him for 24 ish hours.  Luckily, Ben took his bottle like a champ and was as happy as a clam while I was away.  I had to pump twice at the hotel before we went out, and then didn't pump again until about 7 am, which is the normal amount of time I go on the nights where Ben sleeps all the way through.  I had had these visions of myself having to tote my pump all around Seattle with me and pumping in the bathrooms of the various clubs we went to - but that was obviously not the case, haha!  We both survived :)


Monday, November 7, 2011

6 weeks old

Ben is 6 weeks old!  He continues to be so much fun and such a happy little guy.  I was so proud of him for being such a good boy for so many people this week:  snuggling with Maureen during our coffee date, snuggling with my mom during my dentist appointment and snuggling with Cherie, my friend Callie's mom, during our visit at her house!  He also was awesome and slept through my lunch with Lisa and through mine and Greg's entire outing yesterday :)  For the most part, this kid hardly ever gives us trouble....although, at times, he can be like this...


...he usually is more like this:


I'm kind of laughing at the fact that just last week, I posted a "Day in the Life" on our typical day around here.  Literally the next day, I visited my friend Shauna and was inspired to re-read Babywise (a book both she and I had read while we were pregnant) and work to get Ben on a schedule.  Shauna has been working with Bronson and has had success with getting him to sleep for longer chunks during the night.  She suggested I start with trying to get Ben into a "eat, wake, sleep" pattern - which is what I have been doing ever since.  Sometimes Ben doesn't follow this pattern, but for the most part he does.  I realized that he was not getting enough sleep during the day!  Now, instead of one marathon nap in the afternoon, Ben naps at (approximately): 9:30 am, 12:30 pm, 3:30 pm, 6:30 pm, and then goes to sleep for good around 8:30 pm.  The idea is that you start your day at the same time every day (for us it will be 8 am...until the weeks leading up to my going back to work, when we will move our "start time" to 6:30 or 7) and work to eat, then stay awake for awhile, followed by a nap - cycles of 2 and a half to 3 and a half hours.  It really seems to be working so far.  Below is the suggested schedule from the book:

2 weeks ago, Ben was suffering from REALLY bad baby acne.  I don't have any pictures that show how bad it got, but it was very red and rashy looking.  Being the rookie mom that I am, when his "rashy" acne was combined with a fever of 99.4...I started to worry that he was sick.  It's amazing all of the things that creep into your mind when something unknown happens with your child.  I found myself checking to make sure he was breathing in his sleep (like I did the first few nights).  After a long conversation with my doctor on the phone, she suggested that I bring him in to ease MY concerns (as she didn't really have any based on the symptoms that I described).  I figured it was WELL WORTH the $20 co-pay to go in and have him looked over.  (He was perfectly fine).

Another great thing about taking him in was that we got to weigh him!  As of 10 days ago, Ben weighs 10 lbs 10 oz!  Dang!  I knew that Ben was a good eater, but it was reassuring to know that he IS, in fact, getting all that he needs from me.  On a related note, breastfeeding is going very well - much better than I ever thought it would.  To be completely honest, I was a little hesitant about how long I would do this for.  I still am not comfortable doing it in public (thank goodness for dressing rooms and the Nordstroms ladies' lounge).  The thing is, I managed to get down to my pre-pregnancy weight in 5 weeks...without cutting back on what I'm eating AND without much exercising (yet), so I'm thinking that this has played a big part in that.  This, combined with how well it seems to be working for Ben, has me much more determined to try to continue when I go back to work.  I currently am pumping once a day to build up a supply in the freezer.  I hope that since I will only be at the office and away from Ben 3 days a week, it will be relatively easy to keep this up as long as it is beneficial to him.  I will keep you posted...
Back to Ben - he is currently wearing 3 month clothing and soon will be able to fit in some of his 3-6 month stuff!  It was a sad, sad day when the newborn sizes that were swimming on him at birth become SO snug that he couldn't even straighten his legs!  The good news is, we have been lent and given SO many adorable outfits that I am happy each and every time I dress him in the morning!

Remember this outfit?  It was the first outfit purchased for
Ben by his Aunt Rachel the day we found out he was a boy!

Ben is now smiling on a daily basis and is starting to make some cooing sounds (although just a few here and there).  He seems to be able to see us from a further distance as well.  One thing Greg noticed this week is that he LOVES watching the lights from the cars on the street outside his room.  I suppose this is one positive thing about the area we live in ;)  At night, we will leave his blinds slightly cracked so that he can see the lights coming in through his window.  I even went out to the store and purchased a "Twilight Turtle" (same family as the sleep sheep) that projects stars up on the ceiling in his room.  He LOVES it!



Oh, and I think I forgot to mention it, but Ben is now sleeping in his crib, IN HIS ROOM, for all naps and at night.  It all really happened by accident.  The night before we got started on the new schedule, Ben was having a hard time going to sleep.  Greg took over, went into his room, showed him the lights from the cars, and then when he was starting to doze off, put him down in his crib.  When Greg returned to our room without Ben, I admittedly was a little sad/annoyed.  I hadn't really made the decision yet to have him in his own room quite yet.  While I didn't sleep very well that night, it has turned out to be a great thing.  Ben is getting even more skilled at falling asleep on his own and seems to be sleeping much better in there!  We, too, are sleeping better.  While I of course still watch and listen to him via baby monitor, it is a lot easier for me to let him babble and watch him squirm around for a few minutes instead of immediately picking him up.  This means that Ben will often times fall back asleep, so we are all getting longer stretches of sleep at night now. 

Here are some more photos from the week: